The Future – Why Not To Freak Out About It

The Future – Why Not To Freak Out About It

The Future – Why Not To Freak Out About It 

Photography By Tom Buck

What I’m Wearing

Silver Jacket – Represent Clo (click here)

Sweatshirt – OFF-WHITE (click here)

Black Denim – NDG (click here)*

Yeezy Season 3 Boots – Farfetch (click here)*

Has anyone ever asked you that dreaded question ‘where do you see yourself in 5 years time?’ I literally despise that question – I think it’s great to have an idea of where you want to be in life or some sort of direction but who knows what can happen within the next week let a lone in 5 years time.

Throughout school, college and University we’re constantly made to make decision about our future that we may then regret or change our minds about. I certainly know what it’s like to change my mind about things, I ended up studying Contemporary theatre at University when in-fact I wanted to do something fashion related, although the A-Levels I’d chosen to study at college didn’t allow me to apply for a Fashion course etc.

But that’s where the interesting part comes in, although I’d had a teenage-life crisis and thought I’d messed up my entire life – I hadn’t. Nothing of the sort actually. I ended up working in the fashion industry straight after University through my hobby (this blog) which kept that part of my passion alive if you will. Everything so far that has happened to me in my life I wouldn’t have it any other way because It’s made me who I am today.

If like me you can be a bit of a worrier when it comes to any kind of plan, then I’ve noted down some tips/reasons below on why we shouldn’t worry or freak out as much over the future and know that everything happens for a reason.


Enjoy the Journey

Too often I’m focusing on the end result, the win or the prize and I’m worried about achieving that which makes enjoying the journey impossible. Sometimes when you look back it’s not the end result that you remember it’s how you got there.

I think it’s important to take a wider view of situations, a 360 if you will. Look at it from all different angles and assess the different outcomes but more importantly remember to enjoy the journey, you have 1440 minutes in a day, why would you waste a second them being worried?

Be Confident and Take Control

No matter how much you worry about the outcome, it’s you and only you that can change how you deal with the situation. Lets say for example you’re heading to a meeting/event where you know a group of people will be that you don’t know or don’t particularly get on well with.  Instead of avoiding it or making an awkward yet short conversation you can actually take control of that situation, diffuse the worry and the stress by rising above it. If you’re in control then you don’t have to worry.

Don’t Worry about Failing

Everyone fails, everyday. Whether it’s something minor like tripping over in the street (lol) (sorry) or failing on a test, failing is important because it teaches us what not to do next time. Treat each fail as a lesson, making mistakes helps us realise what we did wrong. Ie. Watching out for that place in the street that made you trip so you don’t do it again or taking time to fully study the part of the test you failed. Failing is a part of life and you just have to accept it and learn from it.

Focus on making decisions

Life is one big decision making game and it’s not to be feared. Opportunities present themselves at the most unlikely times and it’s all about what you decide to do or how you choose to proceed. I’m a big believer in taking control of your own destiny (cringefest2017) but I genuinely believe in it and it’s all about choices. When you’re presented with a decision, assess all the outcomes and think which one will make you happy or which one is necessary in the long run.

 

Look back and see how far you’ve come 

Too often we beat ourselves up – me especially over what we didn’t do or what we could have done. Whereas we should celebrate what we have done and what we’ve accomplished. So write down a list of what you’re proud of and give yourself a pat on the back. Look forward to the future with excitement and positivity, leave that worry behind and I promise you’ll enjoy yourself a whole lot more.

3 Comments

  1. 01/04/2017 / 19:47

    I am starting to feel a bit anxious about my future because doubts are rising as I’m getting closer to the end of this course (2nd year of my degree). I always thought teaching was what I wanted to do but now I’m not sure. I even attended a talk on this topic today, which was focused on my degree and its possible job opportunities. Although I’m still unsure about it all, I know I want to try some different things so that I can have those experiences and decide what I want to do with my life. This post was also quite helpful tbh, and I’ll definitely re-read it in the future haha Thanks Joel!

    Zoel Hernández | zoelhernandez.com

    PS. Sorry for using this comment to kind of express myself haha xx

  2. Alexander Fassam
    01/04/2017 / 21:35

    I really enjoyed reading this! I have missed your writing and the way you communicate to your audience, it’s inspiring.

    I am such a worrier but through a mindfulness course, I’ve learnt to ground myself in the here and now and try to really look at life in the present, as opposed to worrying about the future or regretting the past.

    Please blog more! I know you have a busy schedule, obviously, but I do so enjoy reading insights into your life.

    Thanks, Joel 🙂

  3. 13/06/2017 / 10:27

    Enjoying the journey is truly one of the most important things. It reminds me of something the Buddha once said, “Be entitled to your labor – and not to the fruits of your labor”

    https://www.tigha.com/undressed/

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